Why Masculine Energy in Relationships Matters More Than You Think
In this powerful conversation, GS Youngblood breaks down the concept of masculine energy in relationships for men and why it’s a foundational skill that impacts not just your love life, but your business, confidence, and overall success. While many real estate investors focus solely on deals and financial growth, this episode highlights a truth often overlooked: if your relationship is unstable, it will eventually affect every other area of your life.
Rod Khleif opens up about his own relationship challenges, setting the stage for a deep dive into how men can show up more grounded, present, and effective in their intimate relationships. The discussion quickly reveals that most men are never taught how to lead emotionally, which creates disconnect, frustration, and ultimately relationship breakdown.
The Core Problem: Reacting Instead of Responding
One of the biggest breakthroughs in understanding masculine energy in relationships for men is learning the difference between reacting and responding. Most men operate on autopilot, reacting defensively when their partner expresses emotion. This often leads to arguments, miscommunication, and emotional distance.
Youngblood emphasizes the importance of grounding yourself in the present moment. Instead of trying to fix, defend, or explain, a man rooted in masculine energy stays calm, observes what’s happening internally, and chooses how to respond intentionally. This shift alone can dramatically change the dynamic in a relationship.
The Masculine Blueprint: 3 Pillars Every Man Needs
GS Youngblood introduces a simple but powerful framework called the Masculine Blueprint. These three pillars define what it means to embody masculine energy in relationships for men:
- Respond vs React
Developing emotional control and grounded presence so you can choose your actions instead of operating from fear or past conditioning. - Provide Structure
Bringing leadership into the relationship through clarity, decision-making, and direction. This applies not just at home, but in business and life overall. - Create Safety
Building emotional safety so your partner feels secure, connected, and open. This is the key driver behind intimacy, trust, and long-term attraction.
When men embody these traits, relationships naturally become stronger, more connected, and more fulfilling.
The Hidden Key to Attraction and Intimacy
A major insight from the episode is that many men focus on symptoms rather than root causes. For example, complaints about lack of intimacy are often tied to a deeper issue: lack of emotional connection.
Youngblood explains that emotional safety is the gateway to physical intimacy. When a woman feels emotionally disconnected or unsafe, desire naturally decreases. On the flip side, when a man creates a sense of safety and connection, attraction and intimacy increase organically.
This reframes the entire conversation around relationships. Instead of asking, “Why isn’t there more intimacy?” the better question becomes, “How can I deepen connection and emotional safety?”
Leadership in Relationships Extends Beyond the Bedroom
Another key takeaway is that leadership isn’t just about finances or career success. Masculine energy in relationships for men shows up in three main areas:
- Logistical leadership: Helping guide decisions around life, family, and direction
- Sexual leadership: Initiating and creating space for intimacy
- Emotional leadership: Addressing issues directly and fostering open communication
Many men succeed professionally but fail to bring that same leadership into their relationships. When they do, everything changes.
Emotional Connection: The Skill Most Men Never Learn
Perhaps the most eye-opening part of the conversation is around emotional connection. Many men simply don’t know what it means or how to create it.
Youngblood explains that connection comes from two key abilities:
- Understanding and expressing your own emotions in a grounded way
- Being able to receive your partner’s emotions without defensiveness
Instead of correcting facts or trying to “win” arguments, men are encouraged to meet their partner on an emotional level first. This builds trust, reduces conflict, and strengthens the bond over time.
Guest Bio: GS Youngblood
GS Youngblood is a relationship coach and author specializing in helping men develop masculine energy in relationships. He is the author of The Masculine in Relationship and creator of the Masculine Blueprint framework. Through coaching programs, workshops, and teachings, he helps men become more grounded, confident leaders in both their personal and professional lives.
Why This Matters for Entrepreneurs and Investors
One of the most powerful themes in this episode is the connection between relationship health and business success. As Youngblood points out, you can’t truly excel in your career if your home life is unstable.
For real estate investors and high performers, mastering masculine energy in relationships for men isn’t just about improving your love life. It’s about becoming a more grounded, decisive, and emotionally intelligent leader in every area of life.
If you want to hear the full conversation and detailed insights, watch the podcast video or read the complete transcript below.
FAQ: Masculine Energy in Relationships for Men
What is masculine energy in relationships for men?
Masculine energy in relationships for men refers to a grounded, stable, and leadership-oriented way of showing up in a partnership. It is not about dominance or control, but about presence, direction, and emotional strength. Men who embody this energy tend to respond instead of react, create safety, and bring clarity into the relationship.
Why is masculine energy important in a relationship?
Masculine energy is important because it helps create polarity, which is a key driver of attraction and connection. When a man is grounded and emotionally stable, it allows his partner to feel safe and relaxed. This dynamic leads to stronger communication, deeper intimacy, and a more fulfilling relationship overall.
How can men develop masculine energy in relationships?
Men can develop masculine energy by focusing on self-awareness, emotional control, and leadership. This includes practicing presence, setting boundaries, and making decisions with confidence. Developing these traits requires consistent inner work, including understanding past patterns and improving emotional intelligence.
What is the difference between reacting and responding in a relationship?
Reacting is an automatic, emotional response often driven by fear, defensiveness, or past experiences. Responding is intentional and grounded, allowing a man to choose how he shows up in the moment. Learning to respond instead of react is a core part of masculine energy in relationships for men.
How does masculine energy affect attraction and intimacy?
Masculine energy plays a major role in attraction and intimacy because it creates emotional safety and polarity. When a woman feels emotionally secure and connected, she is naturally more open to intimacy. Without that safety, attraction and desire often decrease over time.
What does it mean to create emotional safety in a relationship?
Creating emotional safety means making your partner feel seen, heard, and secure without fear of judgment or rejection. This involves listening without defensiveness, staying calm during conflict, and validating emotions. Emotional safety is one of the most important aspects of masculine energy in relationships for men.
Can masculine energy improve communication in relationships?
Yes, masculine energy improves communication by reducing defensiveness and increasing clarity. When a man is grounded, he is better able to listen, understand, and respond effectively. This leads to fewer arguments, deeper conversations, and a stronger emotional connection.
What are common mistakes men make with masculine energy?
Common mistakes include being overly reactive, avoiding leadership, and trying to fix problems instead of understanding emotions. Many men also confuse being nice or passive with being masculine, which can weaken attraction and connection. True masculine energy is about balance, not extremes.
How does leadership show up in relationships?
Leadership in relationships shows up through decision-making, direction, and emotional steadiness. This can include planning, initiating important conversations, and addressing issues directly. It also means taking responsibility for the health and growth of the relationship.
Can improving masculine energy help with relationship conflicts?
Yes, improving masculine energy can significantly reduce and resolve conflicts. When a man is grounded and emotionally aware, he can handle tension without escalating it. This creates a calmer environment where both partners feel heard and understood, leading to healthier resolutions.
Disclaimer: This summary was written with the help of AI and reviewed by Rod’s Team.
01:20:07:27 – 01:20:27:29
Rod Khleif
Welcome back to lifetime cash flow to real estate investing. I’m Rod Khleif, and I’m thrilled you’re here. And I know you can get tremendous value from the gentleman. A mere interviewing today. He’s actually my coach. Now, this is going to have nothing to do with real estate Excel. But if you’re just hellbent on just learning, just real estate, not improving other aspects of your life, then this may not be the episode for you.
01:20:27:29 – 01:20:48:29
Rod Khleif
But if you’re in any intimate relationship with your man or a woman or an intimate relationship, you definitely want to stay here because you’re going to learn a lot. So I’m here with G.S. Youngblood, and she’s, again, is my coach, around relationship, and masculine energy. So, you know, I like to consider myself very frickin masculine.
01:20:48:29 – 01:21:13:16
Rod Khleif
And, you know, I’ve discovered, you know, I’m single again. I’ve, I, I’ve been out of relationship now about three years, and I’ve discovered that some of my behavior is not masculine. And so, you know, I actually met guys at a conference or a retreat I went to apply to Carmen, hosted by a guy named Doctor Glover who wrote a bestseller called No More Mr. Nice Guy, which is an interesting book to read.
01:21:13:22 – 01:21:27:10
Rod Khleif
As an aside, good guy, and Jes was there presenting, and I was very impressed. And so I’m like, dude, we, we need to do two things. One, I need you to coach me, and two, I want you on the podcast. So here we are. Welcome both. Yeah.
01:21:27:10 – 01:21:29:06
GS Youngblood
Thanks for having me on. Right. Absolutely.
01:21:29:08 – 01:21:49:23
Rod Khleif
So James wrote a book called The Masculine in Relationship. And what I’ll tell you, I’m not going to try to steal all his frickin thunder. But, you know, if you’re in a relationship and I have to kind of I have to kind of position this from the male perspective. And I know you’ll have some feedback for women as well, but you primarily work with men, I think.
01:21:49:23 – 01:22:06:19
Rod Khleif
Is that and that’s right. Yeah. And and so, you know, I remember in my previous relationship, very feminine woman I was married to, still my best friend. But, you know, she would have these I don’t know what you call it, like an emotional.
01:22:06:21 – 01:22:07:08
GS Youngblood
Meltdown.
01:22:07:08 – 01:22:23:11
Rod Khleif
Meltdown? Yeah. Meltdown is a good word for it. Yeah. And of course, as a man, you want to make it right and you want to try to fix it and and placate and rationally explain your position in the meltdown, which, which never works.
01:22:23:11 – 01:22:36:06
GS Youngblood
Okay. How we try to make the, the, the discomfort stop of her. Right. Her pain. Right. But we do it. We come from the wrong place because we’re really trying to protect ourselves rather than actually empathizing with them.
01:22:36:09 – 01:22:59:25
Rod Khleif
Interesting. Yeah. So, you know, I would try to fix it and stop the pain and and, you know, and you if you really want to dig deep, you take a look at what’s driving all of that. But a real masculine man will just sit there grounded in, in present and be more solidified or wow, better. Yeah.
01:23:00:01 – 01:23:24:04
GS Youngblood
It’s not sit there and take it. That’s not what we’re talking about. But the let me rephrase. Sit there. He’s he’s going to be, as you said, very grounded and still and he’s got he’s got a little bit of spaciousness inside of him where he can notice what’s going on inside of himself. And then he can choose how he reacts rather than coming out of our wounding and our frantic desire to make her pain stop and hurt her, upset mood stop.
01:23:24:06 – 01:23:41:25
GS Youngblood
It’s really about choosing in the next moment who you want to be. Now, I can shoot in that space. I can choose to set a boundary. If she’s being abusive verbally, I can say, wait a minute, baby. Let’s just pause right here because that’s not okay. So it can go to that. Or it can be empathizing with her and invalidating her pain.
01:23:41:28 – 01:23:51:25
GS Youngblood
So you have you have this range of choices. So it’s not about sit there and take it, but it’s about sit there, ground yourself, and then make a choice based in the man that you want to be.
01:23:51:27 – 01:24:11:17
Rod Khleif
I’ll tell you, I got a lot of value out of your book. And guys, I highly recommend get it man. Get the masculine in relationship book it’s on. Amazon is really good. And one of the highlights for me that really resonated with me. And if you’re listening, maybe this will resonate with you. Because when a woman has that meltdown, they’re in pain.
01:24:11:17 – 01:24:26:05
Rod Khleif
Yes. Yeah, yeah, it’s pain and and but we as a man feel like we’re being blamed. Exactly. And so the one piece of the book that really resonated with me was to feel her pain, not her blame. Yeah. And that that was huge.
01:24:26:08 – 01:24:49:17
GS Youngblood
Yeah. It’s a huge reframe for guys because if when you’re getting blamed, you’re going to go into defense mode quick, you’re going to explain, you’re going to deny, you’re going to fight back. All these things that that whether you think it’s right or not, they don’t lead to the outcome that you want. And so it’s a reframe. If you can actually see that your woman’s in pain, her behavior in those moments seems, well, you’ll have more empathy for it because this is your baby.
01:24:49:17 – 01:25:04:12
GS Youngblood
And it’s just like your seven year old daughter scraped her knee falling off her skateboard. Of course you would scoop her up and say, sweetie, it’s going to be okay. And so with that reframe of here, the pain not to blame, I think men are much more able to do that when they could see her. From that reference point.
01:25:04:12 – 01:25:26:24
Rod Khleif
I’ve used it on a girl I was dating. That, it absolutely was very effective for me just to keep myself from reacting, just to settle in. And I know that, you know, you you you taught some exercises for men to ground themselves. You want to speak to that a little bit as to why that’s a failure?
01:25:26:25 – 01:25:50:10
GS Youngblood
Yeah. What you’re talking about as the embodiment exercises that we did at the at the conference where you and I met, and embodiment is about taking your awareness and your attention away from that, your thinking mind, the mind that’s trying to to protect you and create stories and project them on other people and all of these things that aren’t very helpful in relationship, taking it away from that compensating mind and putting a little bit into the body.
01:25:50:15 – 01:26:06:01
GS Youngblood
And and then you’d say, okay, why, what does that what relevance is it to have it in the body when we’re talking about the body, it’s having your attention on physical sensation in your body. So for me, like you and I sitting here, we’re both sitting in chairs. We can feel gravity pulling us into the chair. There’s a sensation there.
01:26:06:02 – 01:26:29:06
GS Youngblood
Sure. So if I feel that sensation, if I put a little bit of my awareness there, guess what? Sensation only happens in the now. So when I put my some of my awareness on sensation, it actually brings me more back into the now and not into the thought world. We’re taking you out of the thought world that your mind is creating, which is all about projections into the future and ruminations on the past.
01:26:29:06 – 01:26:33:06
GS Youngblood
You’re never here right now. And that’s where the embodiment exercises really help.
01:26:33:09 – 01:26:54:26
Rod Khleif
Oh, that’s that really makes sense. You know, there’s a obviously a famous bestseller called The Power of Now Eckhart Tolle. Exactly. Painful. I’ll do the audio version because his voice is so soft, but, but it’s a great book about living in the moment. Yeah. And especially, you know, being in that moment because, you know, that’s going to give a feminine woman comfort.
01:26:54:29 – 01:27:21:05
Rod Khleif
And ladies, if you’re listening to this and hopefully some of this will resonate with you and you might suggest this book or buy it as a gift, for your, for your guy, the masculine in relationship. Because I can tell you it really helps. And, you know, a lot of guys, you know, again, I first got exposed to masculine, feminine energy around Tony Robbins, at, mastermind I was in called, the Platinum Partnership, of his of his.
01:27:21:05 – 01:27:44:08
Rod Khleif
And he had David Data, author of The Way of the Superior Man. Yeah. Which is a fantastic book as well. Absolutely. Around masculine and feminine energy and, you know, and the bottom line is men, when they’re in stress or fear, they, they, they exhibit more feminine behavior, feminine energy, and women, when they’re in stress or fear, exhibit more masculine energy.
01:27:44:08 – 01:27:47:20
Rod Khleif
So that, that, that polarity loss. Yes, I agree with that.
01:27:47:20 – 01:27:55:24
GS Youngblood
I would we depolarize. Yeah. We get played and and frightened and trying to make it okay. And all these things that aren’t leadership.
01:27:55:24 – 01:28:19:02
Rod Khleif
Right, right. A man needs to be a leader needs to be, you know, in his energy. And you know I know you offer that that really that masculine blueprint. And you know guys you think masculine and you’re thinking buff and and and and and and muscles and you know and cowboy hat or whatever really it’s an energy what it is, how you carry yourself.
01:28:19:03 – 01:28:19:16
Rod Khleif
This is the.
01:28:19:16 – 01:28:39:28
GS Youngblood
Big mystery that I think men are faced with is what is it to be masculine and we’re getting a lot of contradictory, messages in a meet you world. A lot of guys got the message that being nice, being accommodating, being please, please, being a pleaser were the way that you needed to be as a man. And, you know, you and I both agree that’s not the way to do it.
01:28:39:28 – 01:28:55:20
GS Youngblood
It doesn’t mean that a woman can’t bring leadership. You’re both bringing different kinds of leadership into the relationship, but I’m just getting the guys to focus on what’s the masculine flavor of leadership that they can bring. So with this, I think there was a been a little bit of a vacuum of what is it to be a man in today’s world?
01:28:55:20 – 01:29:17:14
GS Youngblood
Can I still be powerful and relational with my woman? And that’s what I, I attempted to create with the masculine blueprint. So for the people listening, this is the framework that I’ve created. It’s a three part framework. And my contention is if you embody these three qualities, you will be living more from your mask and the core, and I guarantee your relationships are going to get better.
01:29:17:14 – 01:29:29:03
Rod Khleif
No question. Yeah. You know, I mean, I hear guys complain all the time, you know, but where there’s just not enough sexuality in the relationship, that you want to speak to that a little bit.
01:29:29:06 – 01:29:33:24
GS Youngblood
Yeah. A lot of guys are complaining about not having enough sex, right? With their woman, right?
01:29:34:00 – 01:29:34:06
Rod Khleif
Yeah.
01:29:34:07 – 01:29:53:06
GS Youngblood
And it’s I think that we come by it naturally. It is biological. It’s a biological urge to procreate and all these things. But in a relationship, the problem is that the guys are complaining about the symptom. They’re not going and focusing on the underlying problem. And the main reason that the guys aren’t having enough sex is because their women don’t feel emotionally connected to them.
01:29:53:06 – 01:29:53:17
Rod Khleif
Right?
01:29:53:21 – 01:30:09:25
GS Youngblood
This is really the the big thing that I don’t think us guys ever got taught. Like, what does it mean? What number one, what does it mean to build emotional connection with my woman? But number two or maybe one be. But how do I do that as a man? Because I’m not trying to turn myself into a woman to be able to do that.
01:30:09:25 – 01:30:12:03
GS Youngblood
I’m not becoming the a more feminine creature.
01:30:12:09 – 01:30:12:12
Rod Khleif
For.
01:30:12:12 – 01:30:30:00
GS Youngblood
That. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. So that’s what a lot of what I’m teaching men like what? What does it look like for a masculine man to create emotional safety and emotional connection with this woman? So, so men out there, if you’re complaining about not having enough sexuality in your relationship, look at the level of connection with her. Look at the level of emotional safety.
01:30:30:00 – 01:30:38:18
GS Youngblood
And if you don’t know, ask. And I think you’ll find out that that our women want to be sexual with us, but they’ve got to be connected first.
01:30:38:21 – 01:30:58:14
Rod Khleif
Yeah. No no no question about it. And and I’ve again I’ve been studying this because of you know I was in a relationship for 13 years that didn’t make it. And and I was a lot of these symptoms were present my previous relationship. And so you know I, I’m always a work in progress and working on myself.
01:30:58:14 – 01:31:14:16
Rod Khleif
And so this is one of the ways I’m doing it personally. And so you know and and you know I think this whole well let me just say this, you know I’ve met there has to be polarity for there to be a sexual attraction in a relationship.
01:31:14:16 – 01:31:15:10
GS Youngblood
Yes. Generally.
01:31:15:16 – 01:31:16:03
Rod Khleif
Generally.
01:31:16:03 – 01:31:19:20
GS Youngblood
Yeah. Well I mean it could be just so raw on looks because somebody. Is that.
01:31:19:26 – 01:31:20:24
Rod Khleif
Too. Okay. Fair enough.
01:31:20:24 – 01:31:22:25
GS Youngblood
But let’s talk about in in a real relationship.
01:31:22:25 – 01:31:28:10
Rod Khleif
Relationship. Yeah. For there to be a spark there has to be masculine and feminine energy even in a gay relationship.
01:31:28:10 – 01:31:45:22
GS Youngblood
I mean. Yeah, exactly. And in some I will say it doesn’t matter who’s got which point. But having said that, most guys identify wanting to occupy the masculine pole. Most women, you know, want to want to occupy the feminine pole. So it’s a choice, right? But your statement within that, your statement is absolutely true.
01:31:45:24 – 01:32:06:17
Rod Khleif
But even for there to be an attraction like I’ve met supermodel beautiful women that have that strong masculine energy, there’s no there’s no sexual attraction at all. Yeah. And you know, and I think they want it, but they’re so I don’t know for whatever reason they’re locked in that masculine energy. I see Tony Robbins work on women, you know, at his events with this and.
01:32:06:20 – 01:32:15:15
Rod Khleif
And men as well, men that are too feminine, they’re too pleasing and too, you know, accommodating when they need to be centered and present and in really in that masculine energy like.
01:32:15:17 – 01:32:37:23
GS Youngblood
Yeah. Exactly. Yeah. And the, the ticket to that is, is to live the blueprint. I think we should spend a few minutes talking about the blueprint. And because I think it’ll orient the readers, I mean the listeners to what we’re talking about here. Yeah. So like I said, as you know, because you’ve read the book. Right. The blueprint is a three part framework and again, embody the blueprint and you will be living more from your masculine core.
01:32:37:23 – 01:32:55:19
GS Youngblood
And so element one is respond versus react. This is about getting more grounded. And so, you know you could see this quality of a guy. There’s a certain groundedness. There’s a certain stillness to his way of being. And it’s not a it’s not a rigidity or a frozen. This those are very different. But it’s a, it’s a chosen stillness.
01:32:55:21 – 01:32:57:02
GS Youngblood
And within that stillness you’ve.
01:32:57:02 – 01:32:58:05
Rod Khleif
Got.
01:32:58:08 – 01:33:15:11
GS Youngblood
The space inside to choose how I want to be in this moment, in the next moment, in the next moment. And unfortunately, a lot of guys are running on autopilot. They’re running out of their frantic ness or their fear or their wounds, and we want them to be running out of choice. And so the embodiment practices are a big part of that.
01:33:15:11 – 01:33:22:17
GS Youngblood
That’s, it’s core to what I teach is the embodiment practices. But there’s other elements too. So those are all the things that I do.
01:33:22:21 – 01:33:36:21
Rod Khleif
And, you know, in my past relationship, I was described as being reactionary, reacting. Yeah. Rather than, like you say, responding. Yeah. Absorbing thinking, you know, being present. Yeah. And so that was a big factor, in the demise of my last one. Yeah.
01:33:36:22 – 01:33:59:01
GS Youngblood
You and a lot of guys, right? Yeah. You’re not alone. You’re in good company right around that. Yeah. So that’s the first. And that’s the foundation before you do anything or learn anything, you’ve got to be grounded and everything else grows out of that. So the second part of the blueprint, the second element is provide structure. And this is this is that quality of a man that that first and foremost has inner clarity.
01:33:59:01 – 01:34:15:11
GS Youngblood
And I think this is where a lot of nice guys, get into trouble because they don’t have any inner clarity, because they’re all focused externally on everybody else. And what the safe thing to do is you got to turn that awareness inward first and say, what do number one, what do I need? What do I want? What are my boundaries?
01:34:15:14 – 01:34:35:24
GS Youngblood
But also what does the moment call for? It’s not just about me. We’re not being trying to be narcissistic, but what is what is my deep wisdom? Say the moment calls for right now, for the good of everybody. Right. And, and, and then that’s the internal clarity and then the external expression of that having the, the, the authoritative energy, I call it directional energy.
01:34:36:02 – 01:34:42:20
GS Youngblood
So that when you do bring your clarity out in the form of leadership, like people heed you. And so we teach them all that this is what I’m working on, this guy’s.
01:34:42:20 – 01:34:45:13
Rod Khleif
Opinion related, just just your intimate relationship that’s just in.
01:34:45:13 – 01:34:46:13
GS Youngblood
General. Exactly.
01:34:46:13 – 01:34:47:03
Rod Khleif
You operate that.
01:34:47:03 – 01:35:07:17
GS Youngblood
Way. Exactly that. That’s the thing is, I find a lot of guys will tell me they did this because of their relationship, but then they’re realizing they’re starting to crush it at work. Right? And, you know, people who are following you and doing the kind of work that you teach, they’re going to benefit from this, their ability to be grounded and trustable when they go and meet people and they’re trying to cut deals, that’s all very important stuff.
01:35:07:19 – 01:35:09:12
Rod Khleif
Men, particularly in this case.
01:35:09:14 – 01:35:28:20
GS Youngblood
Yes. Well, or a woman that wants to occupy her masculinity if that’s what she chooses. You know, if that’s what you choose. Yeah. So that’s the second element is provide structure. It’s about leadership. And we’re always trying to get guys to bring more leadership into the relationship. It doesn’t mean this is important. It doesn’t mean they’re the only leader right.
01:35:28:27 – 01:35:45:03
GS Youngblood
It means they need to bring more leadership into the relationship. And many women appreciate that they can then if they really trust your lead, if you’ve proven it over time, they can start to relax into your lead. And the feminine part of a woman wants to relax to the lead of a trusted man.
01:35:45:03 – 01:36:04:15
Rod Khleif
Absolutely. They want to exhale. Exactly right. And yeah, you know, I believe when two human beings in a relationship live to serve each other, that’s a world class. It’s beautiful and but but but, you know, a lot of women want that traditional role. And I think that a lot of hate to say it. Pussies out right now in titles.
01:36:04:16 – 01:36:18:15
Rod Khleif
Guys that that have thought they need to be nice and sweet and accommodating. But that’s, you know, a feminine woman thrives in that, in that ability to relax and exhale when they’re around. A man that can it can own himself.
01:36:18:15 – 01:36:24:10
GS Youngblood
Absolutely. Yeah. Because when you bring that leadership, then she feels relaxed, as you said, and safe.
01:36:24:15 – 01:36:24:24
Rod Khleif
Yeah.
01:36:24:26 – 01:36:44:02
GS Youngblood
In a certain way. And a. Yeah. And that’s that actually brings up the third element of the blueprint, which is create safety is what I call it. I could have just as easily called it create connection and safety, but I just I kept it simple, creating, safety. Now this can be a physical safety. Obviously. It can be financial safety.
01:36:44:04 – 01:37:04:17
GS Youngblood
The one that I focus on the most because it’s the least intuitive to guys is is emotional safety, right. And a lot of women will tell you they do not feel safe in their relationship. They love their partner. They want to stay with their partner, but they don’t feel fully safe. And then that that creates more criticism, that creates more irritability, that creates, less of a desire for sexuality when they don’t feel safe.
01:37:04:17 – 01:37:26:10
GS Youngblood
And so I spend a lot of time with, with clients in my group and my 101, and the workshops working on how to create emotional safety and connection. And this is guys, I’m telling you, this is not, you know, don’t write this off as wussy stuff. This is this is core to having your woman trust you, having your woman want to be close to you, be sexual with you.
01:37:26:15 – 01:37:35:25
GS Youngblood
These are all the things that that men are wanting. And I always say this, everything you want in relationship men is right on the other side of her, feeling safe and connected emotionally.
01:37:35:25 – 01:37:52:26
Rod Khleif
Well, it’s so profound, honestly, because, you know, that was another thing that came up in my past relationship is she claims she didn’t feel emotionally safe. And I give her, you know, I, I can understand some of the some of the behaviors that I had, could, could make her think that I was an amazing partner and everything else.
01:37:52:26 – 01:38:04:26
Rod Khleif
And there were some things that little things that really, you know, she had issue with. So, and this is why I wanted to do this work, you know? Yeah. Make sure that I don’t replicate, you know, the same mistakes I made before.
01:38:04:26 – 01:38:05:25
GS Youngblood
Yeah. And for you.
01:38:05:26 – 01:38:06:04
Rod Khleif
You’re a.
01:38:06:04 – 01:38:20:21
GS Youngblood
Guy that you’ve got physical safety and financial safety down pat. Yeah. And it’s funny how the the you can have all these things really working and doing a great job as a man. But if they don’t feel emotionally safe marriages and relationships and like you.
01:38:20:21 – 01:38:43:08
Rod Khleif
Said, I mean, I can like I said, I consider myself incredibly masculine. Yes. And I there were things I was doing that really didn’t exhibit masculine behavior. And in the, you know, when you when you do the work and you really look inwardly, you discover some things that, you know, trauma that you that that comes up from, that happen in your, you know, in your past and your upbringing and, you know, your, childhood and things like that.
01:38:43:08 – 01:38:45:22
Rod Khleif
And that’s, that’s that. I’ve been doing that work. Yeah.
01:38:45:23 – 01:38:46:22
GS Youngblood
Good for you. Yeah.
01:38:46:22 – 01:39:04:25
Rod Khleif
It’s it’s not the most pleasant, but, you know, it’s it’s funny. I’ll tell you this. As an aside, you know, I spent 23 years with Tony Robbins and he tells you, you know, focus on the future, don’t drive through life using the rearview mirror. And so I never looked at the past. And then I started doing some therapy, and I looked for some past, like, holy shit or some shit.
01:39:04:25 – 01:39:06:03
Rod Khleif
Yeah. Oh. So.
01:39:06:05 – 01:39:18:02
GS Youngblood
Yeah, I mean, God bless Tony. And and he’s amazing in so many ways. I just fundamentally disagree with him and what he said. I disagree with that. Yeah. You do you obviously from what you just said. Yeah. The past is always in the present.
01:39:18:05 – 01:39:18:21
Rod Khleif
Yeah.
01:39:18:24 – 01:39:34:15
GS Youngblood
We don’t like it. Men don’t want it’s like, baby, why are you still upset about. Well it’s because she hasn’t healed from it. Yeah. And so one of the things that I teach in my bootcamp, is how to go back and heal old wounds. Because those old wounds. Guess what? They’re not dead. They’re not gone. They’re not forgotten.
01:39:34:15 – 01:39:41:10
GS Youngblood
They’re just injecting negative energy into the into this moment, even though the thing was ten years ago. So this is a this is a big one.
01:39:41:12 – 01:39:51:26
Rod Khleif
You know, do you encounter where people aren’t aware of what the wound is, that maybe they’ve forgotten it? Yeah. Is there a strategy for that? Yeah.
01:39:51:26 – 01:39:52:21
GS Youngblood
Ask your partner.
01:39:52:26 – 01:39:54:06
Rod Khleif
Okay. That’s funny. Okay.
01:39:54:12 – 01:40:16:03
GS Youngblood
Yeah I mean it’s it’s yeah. I mean, it’s a delicate conversation and we could go into a deeply. But. Yeah, your partner will let you know if you made it. May take some work. It may take some trust building. But there’s old things that that you don’t think are relevant. But to her, they are, because in her psyche, they get frozen and they’ll last for ten, 20, 30 years.
01:40:16:03 – 01:40:20:26
GS Youngblood
So, you know, in many case and so I’m a big fan of going back and repairing old wounds.
01:40:20:28 – 01:40:25:29
Rod Khleif
So you’ve brought up leadership. Can can we go a little deeper on that. Yeah.
01:40:25:29 – 01:40:42:09
GS Youngblood
The there’s lots of ways that one can bring leadership. I like to focus on three. Okay. Bringing leadership in the what I call the logistical domain. It’s kind of your day to day life, bringing leadership into the sexual domain and bringing leadership into the emotional domain. So let me talk about those real quick.
01:40:42:15 – 01:40:43:29
Rod Khleif
Good.
01:40:44:02 – 01:41:00:15
GS Youngblood
Logistical. So I break this down into different sub domains. But it’s like, I mean, the the most obvious one is where do we go? How do we travel, what are we going to do in travel? And a lot of guys just it’s like she says where she wants to go. And he’s like, okay, that’s fine. It could be home maintenance.
01:41:00:15 – 01:41:04:05
GS Youngblood
It could be the finances. It could be, how you raise the kids.
01:41:04:09 – 01:41:10:08
Rod Khleif
Talk about how it’s broken down. I mean, how how women feel like it’s broken down and how a man can fix it.
01:41:10:09 – 01:41:25:23
GS Youngblood
Well, I can tell you that a lot of women feel like they’re they’re left to make a lot of the big decisions for the family. Right? We men, we go off to work, we slay dragons, we make money, we come home and we say, why do you? What more do you need for me? I’m working all day and I’m providing for us.
01:41:25:25 – 01:41:45:06
GS Youngblood
Well, whether you like it or not, in the even in that scenario, a lot of women feel left to do all the thinking themselves, to do all the thought leadership, for instance, of of how the family, how the kids will be raised, their schooling, their, you know, anything like that. A lot of women feel very lonely because the guys just abdicate all that to her.
01:41:45:08 – 01:42:12:05
GS Youngblood
Now, that doesn’t mean you need to work all day and come home and do do her work too. That’s not what I’m talking about. But if we’re talking about using the example of how we raise the kids, maybe what schools they’ll go to, they want you to join them in the thought leadership around that. So I would say to your to your audience, you know, how many of your women have said to you, I feel lonely in this relationship, and part of that could be that she’s left to do all the thought leadership about kid raising and other things related to the family.
01:42:12:08 – 01:42:34:05
GS Youngblood
And so I say to guys, don’t, don’t leave her alone to do these things. Join her in that. The front end of the thought leadership about she can do all the work still, just like she’s having to do now. But if you join her in the the thought leadership up front, she’s going to experience that as leadership from you, even though you’re not going and picking up all the work she’s still doing the kind of the the grunt work on.
01:42:34:05 – 01:42:42:11
Rod Khleif
And one of the things I’ve heard dating is, you know, women even put it in their dating profiles where don’t don’t ask me what I want to do. Exactly.
01:42:42:13 – 01:43:00:03
GS Youngblood
Yeah. That’s that’s another example I think of logistic leadership is like recreation or if it’s dating how you guys are getting together has in this goes back to rod inner clarity. A lot of guys, they just they’re blank inside and they’re like, just tell me what you want to do and I’ll take you there. And their heart wilts when you say that.
01:43:00:05 – 01:43:07:24
GS Youngblood
So it’s about having inner clarity and having some damn opinions right, about things and some aspirations about where. Yeah, exactly.
01:43:08:00 – 01:43:09:19
Rod Khleif
Yeah. That’s, that’s that’s logistics.
01:43:09:19 – 01:43:32:03
GS Youngblood
That’s logistical leadership. So so men will we we do this in the boot camp. We go through an exercise about how men can really raise their game across a number of different sub domains. So that’s one sexual leadership. So this is about it’s about initiating sexuality. It’s about controlling the I’ll call it the action. You know, in the bedroom.
01:43:32:09 – 01:43:56:20
GS Youngblood
It’s about setting up the conditions well before the bedroom, for, for what would create the environment for more sexuality to arise more naturally. I would say your woman is still a sexual being. The problem is, she’s got 14 things on her mind, and she’s got her foot on the brake of. So even though her other foot’s on the on the gas of sexuality, she’s got another foot that’s on the brake because she can’t relax with those 14 things.
01:43:56:20 – 01:44:13:19
GS Youngblood
And so that’s one of the things I teach men is like how to how do you handle some of those things up front so that she can get them off her mind and just be more available for the natural rising of sexuality? This is expanding your boundaries of, like, a couple of my clients just ordered this.
01:44:13:19 – 01:44:32:09
GS Youngblood
Oh my god, yes! Program. Oh OMG, yes, it’s a good plug for them. Okay. But, in a in it gives you these, I guess, video lessons on how to expand your sexuality, new techniques and things you can try out. That’s you taking leadership and signing the two of you up for something like that to expand your boundaries.
01:44:32:11 – 01:44:47:16
GS Youngblood
It’s about initiating. It’s about controlling the flow in the bedroom, things like that. It’s about it’s about bringing a little bit of dark energy, which is something I talk about a lot into the bedroom. A lot of guys bring too much nice guy, energy into the bedroom. So bringing a little darkness and learning how to do that.
01:44:47:16 – 01:44:52:06
GS Youngblood
And we actually do that at my workshops. We did that about a month ago in Mexico at the workshop.
01:44:52:06 – 01:45:06:29
Rod Khleif
And it was it was great. No, that’s absolutely, absolutely accurate. Women like that. Yeah. Just do and go ladies. Feel free to you know we’ll post this. Feel free to make comments on this because I know this to be the case. So yeah.
01:45:07:01 – 01:45:14:09
GS Youngblood
Let me, let me just quickly touch on that because there’s this notion of dark energy. And what I really try to teach is, well.
01:45:14:10 – 01:45:15:24
Rod Khleif
How about 50 Shades of gray?
01:45:15:26 – 01:45:16:27
GS Youngblood
Well, 50 Shades of gray.
01:45:16:27 – 01:45:19:06
Rod Khleif
Hello. I mean, women were all over that.
01:45:19:06 – 01:45:20:00
GS Youngblood
They were.
01:45:20:02 – 01:45:21:08
Rod Khleif
That has some dark energy.
01:45:21:08 – 01:45:41:06
GS Youngblood
They brought the dark energy. But here’s the problem. And I actually I never saw the movie, but I think I saw maybe enough of it to remember the plot. He was a little bit too much on the dark, because I think that he wasn’t taking care of her heart. And so the magic combination here is not just to bring all dark, because just that alone, a woman might not feel fully safe.
01:45:41:09 – 01:45:47:10
GS Youngblood
She might not feel heart connected to you. And so by itself, it’s not enough. I think that’s what happened in the movie, if I’m not mistaken.
01:45:47:10 – 01:45:49:11
Rod Khleif
I never watched the movie. Yeah, like that.
01:45:49:13 – 01:46:12:11
GS Youngblood
But then there’s the light, the caring, the taking care of her, the sweetness, the loving nature of it, which women absolutely need from their man. But if that’s all they get, it gets boring. Super fast. And so the magic combination is really is just bringing the dark and the light. Yes. And so for men, if you can artfully meld those two, you’re going to be uniquely attractive to your woman.
01:46:12:11 – 01:46:19:23
GS Youngblood
And so that’s, that’s what what we’re working on in some of the programs that I run is bringing the dark and the light. So that’s that’s sexual leadership.
01:46:19:29 – 01:46:21:12
Rod Khleif
Emotional.
01:46:21:15 – 01:46:24:24
GS Youngblood
Yeah. Emotional leadership. This is let me give by way of.
01:46:24:24 – 01:46:27:09
Rod Khleif
Example, when I feel that I think and the one I’m working on.
01:46:27:12 – 01:46:53:09
GS Youngblood
Yeah, yeah. By way of example emotional leadership, it’s like, let’s say you have a fight in bed and you, you know, you hash it out for a while and it’s not quite solved, but it’s enough that maybe the two of you can fall asleep. And so you wake up in the morning and are you the guy that either says, you know, hey, good morning, beautiful, and just pretends that it never happened, hoping that she’s forgotten about it and blown over, you know, she hasn’t.
01:46:53:13 – 01:46:54:22
Rod Khleif
One method, okay?
01:46:54:24 – 01:47:12:26
GS Youngblood
Or it’s the guy that wakes up and, you know, after everybody actually truly wakes up, it’s it’s like, you know, sweetie, that was a tough one last night. I don’t I don’t know if we kind of got it fully resolved, like, how are you feeling about it this morning? You actually bring it back up for the purpose? Is making sure it does get put to bed.
01:47:12:28 – 01:47:19:00
GS Youngblood
That is emotional leadership that I call it. Sometimes you have to go back into the burning building even though you don’t want to.
01:47:19:02 – 01:47:20:28
Rod Khleif
That’s that’s very interesting. And you.
01:47:20:28 – 01:47:22:03
GS Youngblood
But the thing is so.
01:47:22:03 – 01:47:31:10
Rod Khleif
So hard for a guy to do. Oh, even the thought of you suggesting it sounds painful to me, but. Yeah. Yeah. You. Oh, so you want to invite more pain. Yeah.
01:47:31:10 – 01:47:38:17
GS Youngblood
And it’s, it’s. But you clean it out and you get it done. Right. It’s like getting the surgery on your knee to clean out the, you know, the knee.
01:47:38:17 – 01:47:40:18
Rod Khleif
Yeah. Got it. Wow. Okay. That’s good.
01:47:40:20 – 01:47:44:10
GS Youngblood
So that’s a that’s one flavor of emotional leadership okay.
01:47:44:12 – 01:47:50:01
Rod Khleif
Yeah right. Fair enough. What about you know, expand a little more on connection.
01:47:50:03 – 01:48:12:08
GS Youngblood
Yeah I’m glad you brought that up because as I said earlier, this is so paramount to a relationship. And your woman wants to feel connected to you. And I remember when I was getting when I was just hitting the glide path of divorce, my wife at the time said in a in one of our first therapy sessions, she said, I don’t feel emotionally connected to you, and I actually didn’t know what that meant.
01:48:12:10 – 01:48:12:26
Rod Khleif
01:48:12:28 – 01:48:35:22
GS Youngblood
I didn’t know what that meant at the time. Now as much. Yeah, exactly. I think you and I and a lot of guys don’t exactly know what that means. And it’s it’s infinitely complex. But let me try to boil it down into, into little elements. One big element of this is, being able to authentically and transparently show what’s going on inside of you, show what really is.
01:48:35:24 – 01:48:37:18
GS Youngblood
Yeah. Being vulnerable. Exactly.
01:48:37:18 – 01:48:38:14
Rod Khleif
It’s a lot of.
01:48:38:16 – 01:48:57:15
GS Youngblood
It’s very hard because number one, we don’t even know what we feel inside, let alone having the balls to to really bring it out. So I’m teaching guys, number one how to feel more deeply, not in a feminine style, but in a masculine style. We can talk about that, but to feel more deeply and then to be able to judiciously be able to share that with their woman.
01:48:57:15 – 01:49:00:20
GS Youngblood
Now, judiciously is is the important part.
01:49:00:22 – 01:49:01:01
Rod Khleif
Yeah.
01:49:01:01 – 01:49:05:28
GS Youngblood
With a woman who’s having an emotional expression, it will often be very diffuse outward.
01:49:05:29 – 01:49:07:04
Rod Khleif
Right.
01:49:07:07 – 01:49:25:07
GS Youngblood
For us, that’s not how we emote, at least in a masculine. So masculine style is you choose which parts you’re contained but not suppressed. So you’re feeling it, but you’re not being overcome by it, and you’re choosing what parts to share and what parts to bear. That’s that’s kind of something I talk about. Which parts do you share it?
01:49:25:08 – 01:49:40:04
GS Youngblood
Which parts do you just bear? Because sometimes, sometimes the masculine burden is to suffer in silence. Other times the masculine direction is to share what’s going on inside. So there’s an art to knowing yourself and being able to share judiciously. So that’s what I work on with guys is.
01:49:40:07 – 01:49:53:19
Rod Khleif
Yeah, that that that really resonates with me. Yeah. You know, and I bring up my past relationship because I was, you know, 13 years of my life. And I shared everything with her. Even the stressful stuff and it’s too much.
01:49:53:19 – 01:49:54:08
GS Youngblood
It’s too much.
01:49:54:10 – 01:49:58:02
Rod Khleif
I should have held on and bared like you said, some of that.
01:49:58:02 – 01:50:03:28
GS Youngblood
Certain parts of it. Yeah. Not everything. Yeah. And I what I say to guys is have some bros that you can just barf the shit on.
01:50:03:28 – 01:50:13:26
Rod Khleif
And that’s the thing I didn’t have, you know, I just wanted to be with her. So I spent all the time with her, and I didn’t have a lot of male relationships to share and work through that crap. Yeah, for I talk to her.
01:50:13:27 – 01:50:14:22
GS Youngblood
Exactly.
01:50:14:24 – 01:50:15:06
Rod Khleif
The right way.
01:50:15:06 – 01:50:27:26
GS Youngblood
Exactly. And. Yeah, so when you work some of that out and some of the excess energy of it with your bros, and then you can bring parts here and actually show yourself to her instead of just being a do this, like, oh, I’m fine, I’m fine. I’m not angry. I remember well.
01:50:27:26 – 01:50:34:10
Rod Khleif
That’s the exact opposite. You don’t say anything. Yeah, yeah, that’s right. I disclose too much. Yeah. So there’s some middle ground there.
01:50:34:12 – 01:50:51:11
GS Youngblood
It’s the art of, of of blending. Knowing yourself deeply, feeling deeply, but also containing yourself as necessary. I remember when I was getting divorced, I was so pissed I punched a hole in the wall for I don’t even remember why. And then she’s like, what the hell are you doing? You’re going to trash our house. I’m white. And she’s like, why are you so angry?
01:50:51:11 – 01:51:06:11
GS Youngblood
And I’m like, I’m not angry, which was complete bullshit because I was angry. I was very angry, but I didn’t know how to show it, which was part of the reason I was getting divorced, because I wasn’t a good emotional partner. So that’s what big part of of emotional connection. So she finally knows you show yourself to her.
01:51:06:11 – 01:51:10:10
GS Youngblood
Guys like know yourself and show yourself in certain words.
01:51:10:10 – 01:51:11:04
Rod Khleif
Yeah, yeah.
01:51:11:06 – 01:51:31:14
GS Youngblood
The flip side of that is really being able to take in her state cleanly and her state’s going to be messy. She is going to, hurt. She’s going to be overwhelmed in many cases, emotionally, not always, but in the extreme cases, she’s going to be blaming. She’s going to find that that thing, that sensitive part and turn the knife.
01:51:31:17 – 01:51:46:01
GS Youngblood
She’s going to bring the thing from five years ago, and then she’s going to kind of twist the facts just a little bit. And this is going to take that huge ball of flames and throw it at you, and it’s going to be messy. And of course we go, you know, we guys all we do is go into our defensiveness.
01:51:46:07 – 01:51:51:10
GS Youngblood
We fight back, we shut down and go stony. We don’t actually receive.
01:51:51:10 – 01:51:54:16
Rod Khleif
Or try to explain it logically. Explain it.
01:51:54:18 – 01:52:15:17
GS Youngblood
Fix it. Yeah. All that these are this is our toolkit that we have. So to really be able to, to, to bring a allow her in her state, whatever it is, even if it’s all left up right, cleanly and in a grounded fashion with a lot of stillness, empathy doesn’t mean you agree with her. That’s different. That’s agreeing with the facts.
01:52:15:17 – 01:52:25:08
GS Youngblood
I’m saying stay with her on the emotional plane a little bit and create some emotional resonance there before you go to the informational plane, because there’s there’s those two planes of communication.
01:52:25:11 – 01:52:25:21
Rod Khleif
01:52:25:23 – 01:52:48:10
GS Youngblood
Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. And co regulate her nervous system because it’s all about the nervous system. So this is what I tell guys all the time. Don’t forget about the content until you get the nervous systems on both sides. Yours and hers. So co regulation of your partner is what she is dying for. Even though she may seem like she wants to kill you, that’s when she needs you the most to help co regulate her.
01:52:48:12 – 01:52:50:06
GS Youngblood
That is a huge part of feeling connected.
01:52:50:11 – 01:53:00:01
Rod Khleif
And when you say co regulate, it’s just it’s just being able to hold your energy to the point where hers just slows down and yeah, a little more rational together.
01:53:00:03 – 01:53:07:04
GS Youngblood
Exactly. That’s what it looks like okay. Yeah. Now there’s different ways to do that. But that’s what at the at the top part of the arc, that’s what it looks like. Right.
01:53:07:04 – 01:53:14:05
Rod Khleif
Right, right. You know, I notice in your book you talk about defensiveness. What’s the role of defensiveness as it relates to all of this.
01:53:14:07 – 01:53:21:06
GS Youngblood
Yeah. The what we were just talking about, the connection is a really good jumping off point, because defensiveness is.
01:53:21:08 – 01:53:23:16
Rod Khleif
Now you talking about defensiveness in a man. Yes. Yeah.
01:53:23:18 – 01:53:33:22
GS Youngblood
Yeah. You’re right. Now she can have hers too. But we’re talking about the guys here, right? Defensiveness is this she makes an emotional expression and you respond with an informational response back.
01:53:33:24 – 01:53:38:10
Rod Khleif
Yeah, but but but no, no, no, you don’t understand. It’s so rational. Yeah. She’s be rational.
01:53:38:11 – 01:53:48:09
GS Youngblood
Exactly. And I always talk about it that it’s like two different languages. Like she’s speaking Greek to you and you’re shouting English back. Yeah, exactly. We’re just like two ships in the night.
01:53:48:09 – 01:53:54:29
Rod Khleif
Talk about a feminine guy. I got to see John Grays people. Let’s see, was brilliant, but. Oh, my God, he’s feminine. Oh, Jesus. Yeah.
01:53:55:01 – 01:53:55:29
GS Youngblood
I’ve never heard him talk.
01:53:55:29 – 01:53:56:29
Rod Khleif
Oh, wow. Yeah.
01:53:56:29 – 01:53:58:13
GS Youngblood
Anyway, Belarus.
01:53:58:15 – 01:54:13:21
Rod Khleif
Yeah, he actually, I don’t know if I should share this or not. Yeah. They had him on a screen. He showed women how to, how to give a blowjob with a banana. I swear to God. Okay. And he’s married to a woman anyway. All right, I digress, but.
01:54:13:21 – 01:54:14:29
GS Youngblood
To not be doing that on this. But but.
01:54:14:29 – 01:54:17:02
Rod Khleif
Anyway. So defensiveness.
01:54:17:04 – 01:54:29:04
GS Youngblood
Yeah. So she makes that emotional expression and you come back with, with information because here’s what it is. She complains about something maybe you did wrong and you’re like, oh, she has her facts wrong. If I just if I just let me.
01:54:29:04 – 01:54:29:20
Rod Khleif
Just fix this.
01:54:29:20 – 01:54:45:22
GS Youngblood
Yeah, exactly. So let me just correct the facts and she won’t be mad at me. Nothing could be further from the truth. It never works. I mean, we’d like it to work. Here’s why. She’s not ready yet for the facts. Her brain is in a more primitive state. It’s. It’s on an emotional plane. Meet her there.
01:54:45:24 – 01:54:51:19
Rod Khleif
And don’t get offended. Women by the word primitive. It really. Basically, it’s an emotional process.
01:54:51:19 – 01:54:53:04
GS Youngblood
Exactly. It’s a raw, raw.
01:54:53:06 – 01:54:54:12
Rod Khleif
Very feminine place.
01:54:54:12 – 01:55:11:00
GS Youngblood
Yeah, yeah, we have our own versions of that. So they’re different. So we’re it’s equal time here. But so we think that if we can just fix the facts that she’ll stop being mad. And that’s where we go into the information. And so you got to meet her at where she is and give some emotional resonance to her.
01:55:11:06 – 01:55:23:06
GS Youngblood
We don’t have enough time to even go into, like, what that would look like. But that’s the work. That’s the work. And we do it in a masculine style. And she will become more trusting of you afterwards. If you can be that rock for her and help regulate.
01:55:23:06 – 01:55:40:25
Rod Khleif
Her, you’ll get the affection. You’re not getting the sex you’re not getting. You get all these things. And you know, if you’re a woman, tell him to go hot or go by the masculine. There you go. So trust me on this, okay. And and, this is why I’m having guys coach me. Because I need more help than most.
01:55:40:25 – 01:56:06:13
Rod Khleif
But, anyway, and then, you also, once you’ve got that book, you also at your website have a toolkit that they can get, but you suggest the book first GS young blood.com/toolkit. But I recommend the book first and then to go deeper go to G Youngblood just like it sounds.com/toolkit for that. Some videos that you did.
01:56:06:13 – 01:56:10:04
GS Youngblood
Yes. Yeah. Yeah some videos just to give them a taste of what what going deeper looks like.
01:56:10:05 – 01:56:14:10
Rod Khleif
Okay. Super. Well, I appreciate you coming down here, brothers. Great to see you again.
01:56:14:12 – 01:56:15:03
GS Youngblood
Likewise, man.
01:56:15:05 – 01:56:30:22
Rod Khleif
See you on our next coaching call. But, no, I wanted this was important enough, and I know this is a real estate for a podcast, and I’ll probably get some hate, but listen, maybe you’re not in a relationship, and this doesn’t seem important to you, but trust me, when you are in one this, you’ll realize this is real important to me.
01:56:30:28 – 01:56:32:21
Rod Khleif
Anyway, Thanks, brother.
01:56:32:21 – 01:56:41:22
GS Youngblood
Appreciate you. Yeah. Thank you. Rod, it’s good to be on, and I’ll. I’ll say this last thing. You can’t crush it in your business if you’re home life in your home relationship is not on solid ground.
01:56:41:22 – 01:56:57:04
Rod Khleif
Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. The case, you know, if if mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. And and if you don’t have that solid home life, it’s it’s going to massively impact your ability to be successful in anything. Yeah.
01:56:57:06 – 01:56:57:16
GS Youngblood
Boom.
01:56:57:23 – 01:56:58:20
Rod Khleif
Thanks, brother. Yeah.